Departing US While In H Status With A Pending AP
Question to gurus, this is my situation. We applied for 485/EAD/AP and RD is Sep 4 2014 and we are first time filers this year. We have to attend a wedding in India in Dec. Plan is for my wife and kid to go in Nov 1st week and for me to go in Dec 1st week and return together in Dec end. We bought the tickets to this end already and rescheduling costs $600 + fare difference. Given that EAD/AP approval is taking 75+ days, I thought that my wife would go in Nov and I would take our EAD/AP cards with me when they come. Now, I found from my friend that 485 should be approved before one leaves the country or else 485 is considered abandoned. What are my options. The visa stamped (H1/H4) expired already and we have new 797 that is valid till 2016 for both of us. Now here are the questions.
1. Can my wife go to India before AP is approved, and I take her EAD/AP along with me and we return without H1/H4 stamping using AP for reentry at port of entry
2. If 1. above is not valid, then let's assume we go for stamping, and we get administrative processing or something on visa, can we both use AP as fallback and return using AP.
3. What are the other options besides rescheduling since we do not have any specific timeframe for EAD/AP approval currently?
Thank you for your time in advance
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